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I'm Louise,
The Separation and Divorce Coach...
I'm passionate about helping people move forward from the overwhelm and trauma of a break-up, to a place of empowerment and possibility. I understand your pain points and challenges and can guide you through this difficult time with empathy, compassion, and non-judgement.
Book a free discovery call or message me, using the buttons below, and let's start your journey forward today.
Let's transform your pain into power
About you
Are you...
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Reeling from the heartbreak of infidelity?
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Painfully uncoupling?
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Navigating a messy divorce?
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Dreading a lonely future?
Whatever your situation, you don't have to do this alone! I know the feelings of grief, anxiety, isolation, and more, first hand. Not to mention the conflict, and the guilt of seeing it impact on your family. Separation and divorce can feel like a miserable, never-ending 'limbo', in which you have little control over your present and future. This is where coaching can be transformative, because together, we can generate a much-needed shift forward that will empower you in all aspects of your life.
My coaching takes place online, or in Tunbridge Wells, you can opt for individual sessions or a coaching package for full support. Whatever option you choose, I'm confident you'll emerge stronger on the other side.
Book a free discovery call, or message below, and take your first step towards it.
My coaching style
My coaching will empower you through the challenges by focusing on three key aspects...
Getting clarity and perspective
It's easy and instinctive to run away from break-up issues and conflict. By identifying your unconscious feelings, blocks, triggers, and behaviours, you'll gain valuable personal insights and a broader perspective on your situation. As the confusion and overwhelm are reduced your view of the break-up will shift. Your new clarity will help you adapt to the changes with healthy coping strategies.
Gaining control
It's important to manage your emotions when separated, divorcing, and co-parenting, as they frequently trigger and escalate conflict. Intense emotions like anger can also end up increasing your solicitor's bill!
Using your new insights, you can learn to dial down and gain control of your emotions in difficult situations. This will improve your overall mindset and reduce stress. There's a valuable long term impact too, because your key decisions will be rational and will serve your best interests, rather than being emotionally driven or retaliatory.
Moving forward
Creating a new life after a break-up brings enormous practical and emotional challenges. It's important to preserve your energy and keep positive as far as possible, so wellbeing is a key issue I focus on. Many people struggle to 'uncouple' and have lost sight of their identity, so I explore these areas too. Most clients need to increase their self-reliance and rebuild their confidence, especially after infidelity. Creating a positive vision of your future to replace the old one is a vital part of healing and moving on.
Meet Louise
I know just how you're feeling. My own traumatic separation after twenty years of marriage brought an emotional tsunami that I thought I would never overcome. But I did, and the experience inspired me to become the coach that I wish I'd had five years ago. I trained with the world's leading divorce coach and multi-award winner, Sara Davison, who's featured across international media. My coaching certificate is accredited by the CPD Standards Office, one of the UK's most trusted regulators.
I'm now training for Master Practitioner accreditation, which incorporates trauma recovery and advanced coaching skills. In my spare time I'm an avid reader, and a coffee and cake connoisseur! Before coaching, I tutored English Literature for several years while raising my family, and more recently worked as a sessional teacher at two universities.
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves”
― Viktor E. Frankl,
Man’s Search for Meaning
How my coaching will help you
Separating from a loved one is painful and stressful, and brings a multitude of strong emotions alongside difficult decision-making. Sadly, I can't magic away the pain you're going through, but with my coaching you'll learn to manage your emotions and gain more control over your situation. You'll also emerge from it all with a gratifying sense of personal growth. I'll teach you tools and techniques that are tailored to your unique journey, and can potentially deliver the following transformational outcomes:
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dial down and manage emotions
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reduce confusion and overwhelm
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build resilience
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provide compassionate, non-judgemental support
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enable you to make key decisions with confidence
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improve your mindset and approach to challenges
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increase your self reliance and independence
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develop your self awareness
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help you show up as the best parent you can be
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instil a sense of empowerment
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restore harmony and hope
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help you recover from the split more quickly
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boost your confidence and self-worth
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reduce your solicitor's bill by providing vital emotional support and management during the divorce process
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transition into single life
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identify and create your best future
Coaching options
purchased as a monthly package
coaching is online or in Tunbridge Wells on request
Optional extra to any package: Four 30-minute calls , Texts and voice notes (120mins), Priority booking for emergency support
Survival package
One month
Four 60-minute coaching sessions
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this package is for those recently separated and incorporates many practical tools and techniques, with the following potential outcomes:
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it will support and help you survive the shock and immediate changes when at your most vulnerable
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you'll learn to dial down emotions and develop coping strategies for ongoing wellbeing
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you'll understand and manage the grief process, and where relevant, manage the impact of infidelity
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I'll help you sift through the myriad of conflicting feelings and responses, bringing clarity and perspective
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I'll help you confidently make initial key decisions despite feeling at your lowest ebb
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I'll guide you through the initial steps forward with clarity
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you'll learn to gain as much control over your situation as possible
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I'll help you communicate with your ex and manage difficult encounters and ongoing communication
Uncoupling package
One month
Four 60-minute coaching sessions
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for those managing separation—the disconnecting or ‘uncoupling’ process— and the transition from being in a partnership to being single
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the package incorporates many practical tools and techniques, with the following potential outcomes:
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I'll help you manage the practical challenges of living apart from your children and maintaining a positive relationship with them
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you'll learn to navigate co-parenting with your separated partner and minimise conflict
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we'll dial down your emotions by identifying unconscious feelings, blocks, triggers, and behaviours
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you'll gain valuable insights and a broader perspective of your breakup
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you’ll learn how to set boundaries and cultivate strength and resilience when dealing with the challenges
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I’ll help you prepare for divorce including how to liaise with family, friends, and professionals
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we’ll consider how you can adapt to all of these difficult changes with healthy coping strategies
Divorce wellbeing package
One month
Four 60-minute coaching sessions
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For those going through the divorce process - wellbeing is our endeavour at this stage
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the package incorporates many practical tools and techniques, with the following potential outcomes:
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you'll have increased strength and resilience through the divorce process
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you'll be fully in control of your side of it
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divorce brings high emotion and new disputes, prolonged uncertainty, practical difficulties, and fears. We'll manage these different emotions, to avoid triggering and escalating conflict
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I'll use tools and techniques to help you dial down your emotions
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I'll guide you through the ongoing financial, practical, and legal choices and paperwork with a level head
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you’ll feel able to make those key decisions confidently, rather than being emotionally driven or retaliatory
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we'll focus on maintaining your wellbeing and personal harmony throughout
Independence package
One month
Four 60-minute coaching sessions
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This post-divorce package helps you heal and restore your energy and embrace your independent future
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the package incorporates many practical tools and techniques, with the following potential outcomes:
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you'll create a positive vision of your future to replace the old one - a vital part of healing and moving forward
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you'll be able to navigate the practical and emotional challenges of moving on
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I'll help you 'uncouple' and recreate your identity as a single person
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you'll increase your self-reliance, and rebuild confidence, especially after infidelity
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you'll be able to manage and redefine the relationships with your children, ex-partner, and the grandparents
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I'll help you confidently make choices and redesign your life:
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what would you like to do and where would you like to go? what type of person would you like to date? We’ll explore and define this alternative future
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if you didn’t want the divorce moving on may not feel positive, it's daunting or perhaps terrifying
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either way, this package will explore your needs, your fears, and identify how you can enrich your life and create a future that excites you
"Louise understood my situation immediately and gave me some great ideas to move forward."
A. P. Tunbridge Wells
"Louise is fantastic, she really takes the time to listen to your story and guide you through everything in a friendly yet professional manner."
T. M. Kent
"Louise's compassion and knowledge shines through"
A. B. Kent
